The behaviors we see and feel from a loved one with Alzheimer’s are often disconcerting, frustrating, and too many times result in an angry reaction.
The typical paradigm: confusion, frustration leading to the eventual blow up.
Until you find a way to cope and communicate effectively with a person living with dementia, as a caregiver these same feelings will continue to reoccur. The result is a daily dose of angst, anger and guilt for having allowed yourself to go to a place that isn’t positive for you or your loved one.
A positive approach is to start looking at the world of the Alzheimer’s impacted loved one from their eyes not your own. Theirs are remote memories. They are not always “in the moment.” Think about starting at the beginning of their memories and using known methods to draw out their long-term memories. Know methods include music, dance, art and reminiscence of their life experiences. The best parts of them are still there. They just need help to be draw them out. Talk with them. Engage and they will engage back.
Here is the best part. Once you get the hang of operating in their universe you will receive a very pleasant surprise. Your loved one will come back and start joining you from time to time in the real world.
Don’t believe the naysayers – Alzheimer’s patients (your loved one) are capable of more than you can imagine. Start using the memory inducing “tricks” mentioned above and treating your loved one the way you always did – then see what happens.
As many have already learned, Alzheimer’s patients can be interesting and fascinating.
Give it a shot and then you will see what I’ve seen.
Founder & President
Alzheimer’s Music Connect