Are you having a hard time understanding, coping and communicating with a person living with dementia? Try these 2 nonverbal communication tips.


When a person living with dementia changes the way they communicate with us most of us become what can best be called discombobulated.

Discombobulated: confused, disconcerted, upset, frustrated, and then angry.


This happens because we continue to communicate with them in the way we always have over the course of our lives. Sooner or later most of us realize, this isn’t going to work.

Here is are 2 communication tips that might help you improve your ability to understand, cope, and communicate with a person living with dementia.

1. Meet Harsh Words with an Equal and Opposite Nonverbal Communication


My mother was saying over and over each day – get out, I don’t want you here, I can take of myself. Of course, I tried to explain to her she could no longer live by herself. All this did was make her angry and we had a bad day. Think about it. She just told me she could take care of herself. So why would it make her happy when I told her she couldn’t? It didn’t.

I tried every long-winded explanation under the sun and none of them worked. In fact, they made things worse. Finally, after a couple of years of complete frustration, and after walking around in Alzheimer’s World for a while, I got a brand new idea.

Dementia care meet meanness with kindness


So, I shut my mouth and didn’t say a word when it started to happen. Instead I walked over, put my arm around my mother’s shoulder, put my head on her head, and then said,

I’m here now, I am going to take care of you.


Then after hanging on to her for a bit, I turned and smiled and said,

It’s you AND me now.


She stopped telling me to get out.

Communicating in Alzheimer’s World

 

2. The Power of Touching in Alzheimer’s Care


I had my mother strategically positioned in a chair that I could walk by many times a day. Each time I walked by I smiled and waited for her to smile back at me. I can say from experience that most Alzheimer’s patients have a very sweet smile.

When I would get next to her I would stick out my hand. She would reach out and put her hand on mine. An automatic nonverbal response.

Touch and Kindness in Alzheimer’s Care


Hand to hand what a wonderful to communicate without saying a word. This type of communication creates connectedness. Ever feel disconnected from your loved one living with dementia? This is one powerful way to reconnect.

Attachment and Connectedness in Alzheimer’s Care


 This kind of connectedness sends a very clear message to the brain. A message of reassurance, compassion and love. Don't believe me? You will just have to try this for a while and then look and your loved one's face. See if they start acting nicer and more cooperative.
 
 They will—I promise. 
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